Pastor Sue Munene lists key areas couples must focus on for a strong marriage
Relationships counsellor Pastor Susan Munene has shared her insights on what couples need to focus on to build lasting and successful marriages, emphasising intentionality, commitment, and daily effort as the pillars of a thriving union.
Speaking during an interview at a local TV station on the night of Saturday, August 30, 2025, she warned that marriages are not merely about vows but about the continuous dedication of both partners to nurture the relationship, address challenges, and work towards a shared goal of creating a generational marriage.
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She stressed that for a marriage to endure, both husband and wife must consciously commit to making it work, putting in consistent effort each day to maintain focus, harmony, and mutual respect.
“Intentions in marriage are good, and I feel like some of the things we need to understand when it comes to marriage is you need to know that you are married and have a vow that this marriage has to work no matter what,” she said.
Pastor Sue then described generational marriages as ones designed to last beyond the immediate couple, with both partners actively contributing to a legacy of love and stability that can inspire future generations.
“Intentionality is what makes marriages work,” she noted, explaining that couples must approach their relationships with purpose, setting priorities that strengthen trust, communication, and shared responsibility.
She further emphasised that a successful marriage requires practical steps like investing in each other emotionally, remaining focused on common goals, and addressing misunderstandings without letting them derail the relationship.
“And this marriage of mine is generational, and I am the one who is making it to the last. And the man, as the husband, should also be committed to making the marriage generational. And so that commitment and focus of mind and putting in efforts every day to make sure it works is what makes marriage work,” she said.
Misconception
Transitioning to another area often shrouded in myths, Pastor Sue addressed a common misconception about sex in marriage.
She challenged the belief that couples should refrain from intimacy following disagreements, calling it a serious myth.
She compared avoiding sex after a fight to refusing to eat when angry, stressing that sex is sacred and should not be withheld simply because of a misunderstanding.
“The greatest myth I hear from couples about marriage is when it comes to sex. There is this thing that when a couple has a misunderstanding, they cannot have sex. No. People must stop believing that myth. Where is it written that you cannot have sex because you have a misunderstanding? Sex is sacred and should be done at any moment. Even if we fought, we have it. It is just like saying you won’t eat food because you are angry,” she said.
According to Pastor Sue, couples should continue to maintain intimacy even during conflicts, while simultaneously seeking solutions to their problems.
She emphasised that even if a disagreement seems insurmountable, maintaining physical closeness can strengthen the bond and help navigate challenges together.
“Suppose the misunderstanding you have is unsolvable. So let’s continue having sex even when we have a misunderstanding as we look for solutions. It’s a serious myth.”
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