Advertisement
Koku Lwanga shares painful lesson from helping son adjust after separation from husband
18th July, 2026 04:36 PM
Content creator Koku Lwanga has opened up about the emotional period that followed her separation from her husband, revealing how difficult it was to help her son adjust to their new reality.
Opening up on Saturday, July 18, 2026, she shared that one of the hardest moments came when her son, Frankie, refused to join her for a planned picnic because he was struggling with the changes in their family.
Koku explained that looking back at that moment reminds her of how much both she and her son were going through. She said the experience taught her important lessons about parenting, grief, and healing during a difficult season.
“Definitely doing more picnics with these guys. Hapa Frankie had refused completely to come with me; I’d gone to pick them up for a picnic date. He was struggling to adjust to the new normal, and my heart was broken for him,” Koku said on Saturday, July 18, 2026.
She explained that watching her son deal with his emotions while she was also trying to heal was one of the biggest challenges she had faced. Koku said it required patience and understanding as they both adjusted to a new chapter in their lives.
Learning through grief
Koku said the situation helped her understand the emotional weight children can carry during major family changes. She explained that supporting a child through those emotions while managing her own grief was a lesson she had never expected.
“The complex emotions he was experiencing… these moments were such a learning process for me. Holding space for your child’s big emotions while you’re a wreck is another level of growth and grief I hadn’t known. Thankfully, children are so resilient and adaptable,” Koku said.
She added that the experience changed the way she looks at life and relationships. According to Koku, the difficult period taught her to let go of the need to control everything and to appreciate each moment as it comes.
“I began to understand living life in light steps. No one belongs to you. Not even your children. Pain is a harsh teacher but very effective,” Koku said.
She explained that although the experience was painful, it helped her grow as a parent and gave her a new perspective on life, love and family.
