Wanja Nyarari lists behaviours that disrupt funerals days after Betty Bayo’s burial drama

Social media personality Wanja Nyarari has issued a detailed guide on behaviours that can disrupt funerals just days after she was embroiled in public controversies, including accusations that she slapped a YouTuber during Betty Bayo’s family.

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In a post shared on Facebook on Monday, November 24, 2025, Nyarari outlined a series of common mistakes mourners make at funerals, which she said can cause confusion, mistrust, and emotional distress for the bereaved family.

“Save this in case you ever find yourself helping a family that is mourning; these are observations from past burials I have attended, including those of prominent people,” she wrote.

Among these, she highlighted the dangers of hijacking family decisions, forming parallel committees, and introducing service providers such as hearses, tents, or music without the family’s approval.

She emphasised that funerals are not platforms for self-promotion, branding, or social media clout and that financial contributions should be made with humility, leaving management of funds to the family committee.

“MISTAKES MOURNERS DO. Hijacking the Family’s Decisions. You came to comfort, not command. Let the family lead in everything; it’s their loved one. The Church should give a burial date, and it ends there. Colleagues have no business planning a burial; they join the home committee. Creating Parallel Committees Side committees = confusion & mistrust. Follow the official family committee,” Wanja wrote.

She also warned against judging how the family grieves, explaining that grief manifests differently in every individual, and noted that buying influence for front seats or speaking opportunities is inappropriate and turns mourning into a performance.

“Judging How the Family Grieves. People hurt differently. Do not police emotions,” she wrote.

Nyarari further cautioned against spreading rumours, recording private moments, and delaying burials for so-called prominent guests, describing such behaviour as disrespectful and harmful to the grieving process.

“Buying Influence for a speech or Front Seat, If you have to pay or beg to talk, you’re not mourning, you’re performing,” she added.

Mishandling mourners

Nyarari’s guidelines come in the wake of previous controversies linked to Betty Bayo’s burial.

A YouTuber, Cukura ya Nairobi, had accused her of slapping him during the funeral, a claim she refuted, explaining that her actions were part of a security operation to protect the family, especially Bayo’s children, from disruptions.

“The command came unexpectedly on the evening of Wednesday, 19:00HRS E.A.T., clear, firm and mission-focused. The Principal Family Liaison appointed by Tash 254 was Mr GK, the family Chairman, and Mr G, the logistics Liaison,” she wrote back then.

Additionally, Pastor Paul Kuria had reported being denied access to the Bayo family home to deliver his condolence contribution, claiming he was misled by organisers.

Nyarari clarified that she was only present to receive instructions for her role and had no authority to prevent anyone from visiting or contributing.

She maintained that any obstruction Kuria experienced was due to other individuals present, not her intervention.

“Huyu na story yake is lies, not me. He must have been blocked by another person,” she wrote.

The burial, which took place on November 20, 2025, at Betty Bayo’s property in Mugumo Estate, Kiambu County, drew widespread attention from media personalities, fans, and mourners.

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