Mjaka Mfine defends having few female friends, warns of jealousy and backbiting

Content creator Mitchelle Akoth, alias Mjaka Mfine, has warned fellow women to tread carefully when choosing close friends, especially in today’s social media era, where betrayal is just a livestream away.

Speaking in a TikTok live on the night of Wednesday, July 23, 2025, Mjaka expressed her discomfort with the growing trend of online gossip and backstabbing among women, saying she has intentionally chosen to distance herself from the kind of friendships that end up in toxic gossip circles.

She noted that almost every time she scrolls through TikTok, all she sees are women publicly shaming or talking behind each other’s backs.

She questioned how people who once called themselves close friends so easily turn into each other’s enemies, all for attention or gossip clout.

“Do you not see on TikTok that there are so many issues? People are constantly fighting over gossip. People have started backbiting. You become friends and then begin talking behind each other’s backs,” she said, adding that such experiences have pushed her to keep her female circle extremely small.

Mjaka went on to explain that many people tend to judge her for not having a tight-knit circle of female friends, often insinuating that women without large groups are promiscuous or unfriendly.

However, she clarified that her decision is rooted in experience and maturity, not assumptions.

“Then someone comes to ask you why you do not have female friends. Those friends you have — all the men around them are sleeping with them. People always think that if a girl does not have female friends, it means she is only close to men for sex. No, it is not like that.”

She mentioned that while she does have a few close female friends, they are women she considers mature and trustworthy.

“I have them, but they are not the kind who talk too much. There has never been a day they have exposed me. Now imagine me just sitting and opening TikTok only to see people exposing one another all the time,” she said, expressing shock at the extent of betrayal and gossip circulating online.

Maturity

Mjaka emphasised that maturity is what sets lasting friendships apart, and encouraged women to surround themselves with friends who uplift and protect them, not those who eagerly wait for moments to expose or sabotage.

She further remarked that even if she ever ends up trending, it should not be because a female friend is opening a live session to gossip about her.

“Someone can sit and troll me, fine, but not a girl opening a live session to gossip about me, no. I log into TikTok, and I hear people saying, ‘So and so said this, and so and so did that.’ My goodness — this place,” she said.

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