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Benjamin Zulu shares advice for women seeking to avoid single motherhood
02nd June, 2026 12:56 PM
Relationship coach Benjamin Zulu has urged women to be cautious when choosing romantic partners, warning that not everyone who expresses love is interested in long-term commitment.
Speaking in an interview posted on Tuesday, June 2, 2026, Zulu argued that many people enter relationships seeking emotional, physical, or personal benefits without necessarily intending to build a lasting partnership.
According to him, understanding this reality early can help women make more informed decisions about their relationships and future family plans.
Zulu noted that one of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming that affection automatically translates into commitment.
“I just want you to know from the beginning, many of the men you meet, they want a relationship, not responsibility,” he said.
According to the relationship coach, some individuals enjoy the excitement and benefits that come with dating but are unwilling to take on the responsibilities associated with marriage and family life.
“They want access. They don’t want commitment. People want the fruits of marriage without the roots of marriage,” he added.
Zulu encouraged women to pay attention to a partner’s actions and long-term intentions rather than relying solely on romantic words and promises.
Understanding intentions early
The relationship coach also cautioned against rushing into relationships based purely on strong emotions.
He argued that some people are motivated by the excitement of new romantic experiences rather than a genuine desire to build a lasting future with one person.
“We have romantic tourists, explorers who go around seeing how it feels to love this type of woman and that type of woman,” he said.
Zulu suggested that understanding different motivations in dating can help women avoid becoming emotionally invested in relationships that lack a clear commitment.
Looking beyond romance
According to Zulu, many women assume that others approach relationships with the same level of sincerity and loyalty they themselves bring.
He warned that this assumption can sometimes lead to disappointment when expectations are not shared by both partners.
“Many of those who call you lover, lover will never marry you,” he said, emphasising the importance of evaluating a person’s character, consistency, and willingness to commit before making major life decisions.
While acknowledging that every relationship is different, Zulu advised women to prioritise commitment, responsibility, and shared values when choosing a partner.
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