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Wendy Kimani reveals culture shock in marriage after settling down with a Dutch man
21st December, 2025 10:40 AM
Singer Wendy Kimani has opened up about the culture shock she experienced after settling into marriage with a Dutch man, saying life at home forced her to rethink traditions she grew up with.
In an interview with Alex Mwakideu on Saturday, December 21, 2025, she explained that marriage quickly showed her how different African and Western household roles can be, especially when it comes to parenting and daily routines.
Speaking about her husband, Wendy said the differences were clear from the start.
“Unajua wazungu are very different, you know, hawana mambo mingi,” she said, noting that her expectations had to change once she moved into marriage with her partner.
She admitted that some things she considered normal did not apply in her new home.
“What would make a mzungu man at home for me, for me, ehh acha nifikirie,” Wendy said, explaining that her husband’s thinking around marriage and home life was different from what she was used to.
Wendy said her husband is very comfortable taking on roles that are often left to women in African homes.
“So wazungu wanapenda kukua kwa kitchen. Bwana yangu anapenda sana kupika,” she said, adding that this was one of the biggest adjustments she had to make.
Life inside the home after marriage
She described her husband as very organised and intentional about family life.
“Halafu tena yuko structured, especially the Dutch people,” Wendy said, noting that structure plays a big role in how he plans his day and takes care of responsibilities.
According to Wendy, parenting is fully shared in their home.
“Anataka kuamka, na pia na mtoto,” she said, explaining that, unlike what she was used to, her husband also takes charge of their child’s daily needs.
She added that he does not wait for her to do everything.
“Yeye pia atachukua mtoto, amvalishe nguo, waende lunch,” Wendy said, pointing out how this challenged the idea that only the mother handles such duties.
Wendy also shared that there was a time she tried to discipline the child the African way, but her husband was not comfortable with it. Since that moment, she said she stopped and allowed things to fall into place naturally in their home.
Even in the kitchen, Wendy says her role has changed.
“So hata saa zingine akipika niko hapo ananiambia nipee space kidogo, enda ukae,” she said, adding that she has to learn to relax and allow him to take control.
