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Lillian Ng’ang’a urges parents not to badmouth each other after separation
04th August, 2025 12:45 PM
Former Machakos First Lady Lillian Ng’ang’a has called on separated or divorced parents to avoid speaking negatively about each other in front of their children.
Speaking during a TV interview on Monday, August 4, 2025, Lillian shared heartfelt advice based on her personal experience, urging parents to protect their children from emotional damage during and after a breakup.
“I always say, your child will grow up. And when kids grow up, even when we grew up, you get to understand your parents better,” she said. “We should never negatively brand the other party. Let the kid grow up and find out the truth, or the lies, or whatever.”
Lillian stressed that children are highly observant and pick up on everything happening around them — including unspoken tension or bitterness between parents. She encouraged parents to let go of anger and focus on healing, reminding them that a failed relationship is not the end of life.
“If you are in a state of mourning your relationship, the kids are going to see the energy, you know. So just move on, life has happened. Just move on,” she advised.
Lillian and Juliani
Lillian Ng’ang’a is married to rapper and activist Juliani. The couple shares a son and have been open about their efforts to raise him in a healthy, peaceful environment despite the spotlight that follows their relationship.
Her words reflect a deep understanding of the emotional toll breakups can have — not just on the adults involved, but especially on the children.
“The kids are picking up everything,” she said. “So how do we empower our kids to shift from that narrative? Just show up. Sometimes your great side shows up after a breakup.”
Lillian’s message encourages parents to focus on being present and emotionally available for their children, rather than holding on to past pain. Her approach speaks to a more mature and healing way of handling separation — one that prioritises the child’s emotional well-being over personal resentment.
As someone who has experienced life in the public eye, Lillian Ng’ang’a’s message is a reminder that children deserve peace, even when their parents’ love story doesn’t last.
