Content creator Lydia Wanjiru reveals how setting boundaries led to losing friends
Content creator Lydia Wanjiru has opened up about the personal transformation she has experienced this year, revealing that her journey toward peace and self-discovery has not been without losses.
During a recent question-and-answer session with her followers on Instagram on Tuesday, September 2, 2025, she candidly shared how choosing to set firm boundaries has cost her some friendships but, in turn, has gifted her more inner peace.
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The conversation began when Lydia posed a reflective question to her audience: “What are you praying and manifesting for the last quarter of the year?” One follower responded by saying they were hoping to heal from people-pleasing tendencies, mind their own business, and focus on their goals and financial growth.
Lydia connected deeply with this response, sharing her own experience with learning to prioritise herself.
She explained that she had started practising the power of saying no this year. With her humorous yet pointed phrasing, Lydia said, “This year I started saying no, sina, siko, sijui… etc.” While she admitted that this shift in attitude led to losing several “friends”, she also emphasised that it brought her a renewed sense of peace and clarity.
Peace over popularity
Lydia’s reflection highlights a challenge many people face: choosing between maintaining unhealthy friendships and prioritising their mental well-being. For her, the decision to set boundaries meant no longer being readily available for everyone, all the time. She acknowledged that not everyone received this change well, and some friendships naturally fell apart as a result.
However, Lydia noted that these losses were not necessarily negative. Instead, she framed them as part of her personal growth journey. By letting go of the constant pressure to please others, she has been able to focus more on her goals and live authentically without guilt.
Her openness resonated strongly with her followers, many of whom could relate to the struggle of people-pleasing and the fear of losing connections when they start to prioritise their own happiness. For Lydia, the lesson has been clear: true friends respect boundaries, while those who leave create space for peace and genuine relationships to thrive.
