‘Pain doesn’t disappear, it transforms’ – Pastor Kanyari reflects on battle of losing loved one
Pastor Victor Kanyari has shared a deeply emotional reflection on how he navigated the pain of losing a loved one while encouraging his followers on how to manage grief.
Taking to his Facebook account on Monday, December 22, 2025, Kanyari shared the emotional moments he has experienced while navigating through grief.
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“Sometimes the strongest thing a person can do is simply allow the tears to fall. Pain has a way of sitting in the deepest parts of the heart, in the quiet places no one sees, in the memories we can’t touch anymore, and in the spaces life will never fill again,” Kanyari said.
“Don’t ever feel ashamed of your tears. Some cries are prayers. Some cries are healing. Some cries are the only language the heart can speak when words fail,” he added.
On his part, Kanyari narrated that there are days when the weight of everything a person has lost hits you in a way you can’t explain.
“There are days when the silence stays longer than expected… Days when a shadow of what was once loved passes through your mind… Days when the weight of everything you lost hits you in a way you can’t explain,” he added.
Pastor Kanyari, who recently lost the mother of his children, singer Betty Bayo, further explained major lessons he has learned while going through the pain of losing someone.
“I’ve learned that pain doesn’t disappear; it transforms. It becomes a reminder of love that was real, moments that mattered, and a part of your life that shaped you forever,” Kanyari explained.
“There are memories I will always hold close, memories that carry both warmth and ache… but they remind me of a chapter that will forever live in my spirit,” Kanyari added.
Kanyari reflects on fatherhood
This comes just a few days after he shared a deeply emotional reflection on fatherhood, healing, and faith as he navigates a difficult season following the death of Betty Bayo, a period that has drawn intense public attention and online discussion.
In a statement on Facebook on Thursday, December 18, 2025, Kanyari spoke about moments when life feels overwhelming and strength seems hard to find.
He revealed that during such times, it is his children, Sky and Danny, who give him the courage to keep going.
“There are days when the weight of life feels too heavy to carry, when words fail, and the heart feels tired. In those moments, I look at Sky and Danny, and I remember why I must keep going,” he wrote.
The pastor said fatherhood has taken on a deeper meaning during this season, teaching him that true strength is not about appearing unshaken but about staying present even when hurting.
