Esther Musila: The happiest women are not the married ones
Esther Musila, social media personality and wife of gospel singer Guardian Angel, has shared her thoughts on what truly makes women happy.
In an unapologetic statement shared on her Instagram account on Thursday, January 8, 2026, Musila insists that happiness is not defined by marriage, relationship status or financial success.
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According to her, the happiest women today are not necessarily married, single, or those with stable careers and good incomes. Instead, she says true happiness belongs to women who have made a conscious decision to love themselves fully and authentically.
“The happiest women today are not the married ones. They’re not the single ones. They’re not the ones with stable careers and good incomes. The happiest women are the ones who made a choice to love themselves wholly and truly,” Musila stated.
“Women who chose to leave the past behind, worked on their self-esteem and put a high price tag on their self-esteem.”
She explained that such women choose to leave their painful pasts behind, work on their self-esteem, and place a high value on their self-worth.
Happiness in women
In her view, happiness begins when women stop seeing themselves as victims and take responsibility for their emotional healing.
Musila noted that self-aware women move beyond anger, tears and bitterness, choosing to be defined by their present lives rather than past wounds. She added that happiness is a personal choice that requires intentional effort and growth.
“They stopped playing victims. They stopped whining in self-pity and dining in pity parties. They moved past their anger, tears and bitterness. They realised that happiness is a personal choice and responsibility,” she added.
“They chose to be defined by their present, but not their bitter pasts.”
She further stated that these women no longer seek validation from others or feel the need to compete or tear others down to feel worthy. Instead, they understand their value and allow their confidence to speak for itself.
According to Musila, such women are happy because they have chosen themselves, embracing self-love, peace and dignity.
“They are happy because they don’t need validation from anyone. They are happy because they know that they don’t need to throw shade on anyone for them to shine,” she added.
In addition, she described them as “queens” who understand that true fulfilment comes from within, not from titles, relationships or social expectations.
They are happy because they chose to be Queens,” Musila stated.
