Adelle Onyango urges women to ignore society’s shaming
Media personality Adelle Onyango has encouraged women to stop letting societal judgement dictate their choices.
In a series of Instagram posts on Wednesday, January 21, 2026, she reflected on how internalised fears and shame can prevent people from living authentically.
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“I literally would catch myself thinking that I will not help or participate because of fears or nonsense that’s internalised. Accountability doesn’t need shame, nor does change. What works best is love,” Onyango wrote.
She highlighted the importance of self-compassion over external criticism and encouraged people to focus on love rather than fear or judgement.
Reject misogynist influence
Onyango also pointed out that the very actions society often shames women for are frequently the same actions that provoke anger in misogynists.
“It’s also not lost on me that the things a woman does that society tends to shame her for are also the things that make misogynists angry. If misogynists are angry at my life choices or opinions… I’m on the right track – nothing to be ashamed about,” she said.
She encouraged women to recognise when criticism is rooted in bias rather than fairness. Onyango urged women to understand that pursuing their goals and making personal choices should not be limited by the expectations of others.
Focus on love and authenticity
Onyango stressed that accountability and personal growth do not require shame or external pressure. Instead, she highlighted that love and self-awareness are the most effective ways to change, learn, and live fully.
“SHAME ME. I literally would catch myself to myself that I will not help/participate in shaming me,”she wrote.
She reminded women to honour their feelings, embrace their decisions, and pursue what they know is right for themselves, even if others disapprove.
Earlier, Adelle Onyango had shared her personal journey of self-discovery, in which she realised that societal expectations had long constrained her sense of womanhood.
She explained that she had previously tried to fit into a single definition of what it meant to be a woman, reducing herself to avoid shame.
Over time, she embraced all aspects of her identity, re-imagining and redefining what womanhood meant for her and encouraging others to do the same.
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