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Lydia Wanjiru: There is pressure that comes with posting your relationship online
11th January, 2026 11:32 AM
Content creator Lydia Wanjiru has said posting a relationship online comes with pressure and can make it hard to walk away when things stop working.
In a post on Sunday, January 11, 2026, she said she shared her relationship publicly and later regretted it because of the demands that come with constant online visibility.
According to her, the pressure builds every day and affects personal decisions about staying or leaving a relationship.
She says, “As someone who has paraded her relationship online and regretted it, there is a pressure that comes with posting your relationship online.”
Lydia explains that once a relationship becomes public, it turns into a routine that people expect to see daily. She adds that this pressure does not fade with time and instead grows.
Lydia says the demands include creating content together, travelling together, and always posting and tagging each other.
She explains, “Like daily, doing content together, travelling together, posting, tagging, and mentioning each other.”
She says once everyone knows you are dating, it becomes harder to live privately or make quiet decisions about the relationship.
Pressure after going public
Lydia says the pressure becomes worse when one person starts feeling tired or wants to leave.
She explains that even when someone thinks, “This is not working; let me just walk away,” outside voices make that decision harder. She says public praise and comments can trap people in relationships that are already failing.
She notes that comments like “You people look good together” and “You inspire me” add weight to a situation that is already difficult.
Lydia says, “Those people are the ones that make it really hard for you to come out of a relationship.”
She explains that such statements create guilt and make people question their own feelings.
Lydia also talks about what happens after a breakup becomes public. She says the pressure does not stop when the relationship ends. Instead, it changes and becomes judgment. She explains that once you announce a breakup, people start questioning your decisions.
She says, “Even that pressure that comes after you have broken off the news that I am no longer with this person, people question your sanity.”
Lydia says this reaction makes healing harder and adds stress at a time when someone needs peace.
