‘Do you teach your children both native languages?’ Bolo Bespoke questions intermarried couples
By Valerian Khakayi, March 16, 2026Renowned fashion designer Austin Bolo of Bolo Bespoke has raised questions about how intermarried couples are raising their children when it comes to native languages.
In a video posted on his official Instagram account on Monday, March 16, 2026, Bolo Bespoke, who is a Luo and married to a Kamba lady, is seen asking his two children which languages they speak and understand. At some point, he started asking them questions in Swahili, English, Luo and Akamba.
He further turned to his followers and asked whether couples from different tribes make the effort to teach their children both native languages, or whether they limit them to just one, or even stick to English.
Bolo’s question has resonated with many Kenyans, as it touches on identity, culture, and the role of language in shaping the next generation.
“Wahuni Kando…to those who have intermarried with other tribes, do you teach your children both native languages or do you restrict them to one? ama wako wanabaki tu kwa English juu native language is old-fashioned? ” Bolo questioned, highlighting the tension between tradition and modernity in today’s households.
Intermarriage
Intermarriage, the union between individuals from different tribes, is increasingly common in Kenya, particularly in urban centres. One of its greatest positives is the exposure it provides to multiple cultures, customs, and traditions.
Children in these families often grow up celebrating diverse festivals, tasting different cuisines, and learning to appreciate values from both sides, which fosters tolerance and a broader worldview.
Families also benefit from expanded social networks, gaining connections in multiple regions and communities, which can be helpful socially and economically. Moreover, children frequently have the chance to learn multiple native languages alongside English, boosting cognitive flexibility and cultural literacy.
Many intermarried couples also adopt progressive perspectives, blending traditions while prioritising education, careers, and gender equality, shaping children with balanced and open-minded outlooks.
However, intermarriage also comes with challenges. Language differences can create communication barriers in the household, and some families may default to English, risking a gradual loss of cultural heritage.
Divergent cultural practices can lead to misunderstandings around rituals, celebrations, or parenting approaches, sometimes straining family dynamics. Couples may also face pressure from extended families to conform to a single cultural norm, which can create tension and feelings of divided loyalty for children.
Additionally, children of intermarried families may occasionally experience identity confusion, struggling to navigate conflicting cultural expectations in school or community settings.
Ultimately, the key to a successful intermarried family lies in open communication, mutual respect, and intentional cultural education. By teaching children both native languages, celebrating customs from both sides, and creating a blended family culture, couples can maximise the benefits of intermarriage while minimising its challenges.