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Sam West offers advice on handling ghosting in romantic relationships
11th July, 2025 04:32 AM
When someone cuts off communication without explanation, commonly known as ghosting, it often causes emotional distress, leaving the person feeling rejected, confused, and significantly hurt.
Kenyan motivational speaker Sam West, while advising couples on healthy relationships, offered compassionate guidance on coping with ghosting.
In a video shared on his TikTok account on Thursday, July 10, 2025, he encouraged people to respond with love, gently reopen communication, guard their hearts through spiritual reflection, and redirect their focus toward inner healing and personal growth.
Here are ways to handle ghosting in romantic relationships, according to Sam West.
- Respond with love, not offence
The motivational speaker encouraged those who have been ghosted to resist reacting out of anger or spite. Rather than plotting retaliation or exposure, he emphasises the importance of responding with love and patience.
”This person seems to have become rough on you. They are ignoring your feelings, do not respond with offence. Respond with love, do not get angry, do not start planning how you are going to expose them or how you are going to take revenge,” he said.
- Gently open the door of communication
If silence has stretched for weeks or even months, Sam West advises reaching out once more in a respectful, nonconfrontational way.
“This person has gone quiet for some of them for even two months, but gently start opening that door. Show them that they can reach out to you anytime they want, and do not make it look like you are waiting for them so that you can deal with them gently open that door,” he said.
- Guard your heart and seek God’s peace
In addition, he recommended prayer, grounding in spiritual peace, and leaning on trusted confidants to build emotional resilience.
“If someone has decided to be quiet, guard your heart and seek God’s peace. This is where you take time to pray, to listen to the word of God, take time in his presence, and take time with friends so that you guard your heart and protect yourself,” he said.
“When you do not do that, what happens you start having thoughts of bitterness, anger, and thoughts of wanting to take revenge and deal with them, thoughts of going online and calling their family and friends, asking why they are not calling back.”
Sam West further emphasised that if someone is meant to remain in your life, God will bring them back and if not, that rejection could actually be redirection.
“Relax and seek the peace of God; if God is meant to keep them in your life, he will bring them back, and if they are not meant to be, he will put them away, rejection could mean redirection,”he added.
“They might be quiet, but you can always redirect your focus and attention to yourself and to God, that way, you will be able to overcome this season.”
