Chebet Ronoh compares abuse victims to addicts, says Kenyans can’t see beyond themselves
Content creator Chebet Ronoh has compared abuse victims to people struggling with addictions, saying many Kenyans judge situations they do not understand.
In a video on TikTok on Wednesday, November 19, 2025, she said people are quick to ask why a victim does not leave an abusive relationship, yet they also fail to quit habits they know are harmful to them.
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In her message, Ronoh advised people to consider their own struggles before pointing fingers.
Ronoh said, “You see how you couldn’t stop smoking cigarettes even if you knew it was bad? How you drink every weekend knowing that you will lose yourself… that is how the victim couldn’t walk away from the abuser, imagine.”
She added that people often continue with harmful habits even when they know the damage they cause, and the same applies to victims who stay in toxic situations.
She went on to say, “Notice how you know these things are bad for you, but you choose them? And that is why you guys will forever be hypocrites.”
According to her, many people talk loudly about issues involving others while ignoring their own problems. She said people throw judgement around while their own lives are full of mistakes, saying, “Just throwing stones, and your backyard imejaa graveyard.”
Ignoring own problems
Ronoh said she has accepted that many people cannot look past themselves. She said, “I have come to the acceptance that a lot of you people can’t see the outside of yourselves. Like your world is just you…you.” She explained that people continue repeating the same habits they claim they want to stop, and that shows how addiction works.
She compared that behaviour to victims who stay with abusers, saying, “You see how you had an addiction you couldn’t let go of, it is the same way the victim is addicted to something wrong for her. Who would have thought?” According to her, victims are not always able to walk away simply because others think they should.
Ronoh said people should stop acting like they would make better choices if they were in the same situation. She said before asking why a woman is still with her abuser, people should think about their own struggles. In her words, “So before you say huyu msichana yuko na shida mbona hatoki, mbona wewe hujawacha kulala na watu hujui?”
