Consumator advises men to lie about their lifestyle, says honesty will cost them
By Paulette Mboga, December 9, 2025Comedian Consumator has urged men to avoid telling women the truth about their struggles, claiming honesty will only lead to heartbreak.
On Tuesday, December 9, 2025, he said men should never reveal their real challenges, especially when it comes to money or work. According to him, women may listen and even comfort a man, but the moment they feel pity for him, the relationship changes.
He explained this in a video where he said, “Wanaume, niskizeni vizuri, usiwahi ambia msichana ukweli yako. Hata kidogo. Msichana astahili kujua chenye unapitia.” Consumator added that sharing personal problems only makes a woman lose respect for a man.
He gave an example of men who open up about lacking a job or being broke, saying this honesty does not help. “Uko hapo unamwambia eti I don’t have a job right now, but najua zitakuja. Ama eti I might be broke now, but najua milango itafunguka,” he said.
He noted that a woman may respond kindly at first, but the outcome is still the same.
Problems in relationships
Consumator claimed that pity from a woman becomes the beginning of problems in a relationship. “Atakuskiza, akuhurumie, halafu akuambie. I will pray for you,” he said. He also insisted that even if she doesn’t leave immediately, “lazima atakucheat.”
He urged men to avoid this by creating a better image instead of being open about hardships. “Usiwahi ambia msichana ukweli yako. Mdanganye, in fact, wasichana wengi hufurahia ukiwa danganya,” he said.
Consumator told men to build confidence by presenting themselves as successful, even if they are still working towards it.
He suggested exaggerating achievements to avoid pity. “Mwambie uko na shares. Hata kama uko na sufuria moja, mwambie wewe ni landlord Kasarani,” he added.
He even joked that men should say something that doesn’t make sense if it helps them look strong. “Ama hata umwambie kitu haimake sense. You are the one I cry for, when I was newly born, hivyo.”
Consumator said pity destroys relationships because it creates an imbalance. He warned men not to let women see their weak side. “Usiwahi fanya msichana akuhurumie,” he said, adding that trying to be real is costly. “Eti, you want to be real with her. Kwa mapenzi hakuna reality. Mapenzi hunawiri na uwongo.”