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Njambi Fever rejects claims that kids’ bad behaviour is always a parenting failure
03rd June, 2026 12:22 PM
Blogger Njambi Fever has spoken against the idea that parents should always be blamed when children engage in bad behaviour.
She argued that many factors influence a child’s actions as they grow up, especially after they begin spending most of their time away from home. According to her, peer pressure plays a major role in shaping behaviour.
“Mtoto wako akianza kuenda shule, ana spend most of the time in school na marafiki na walimu kushinda ile time ana spend na wewe,” Njambi Fever said on Wednesday, June 3, 2026.
She explained that children spend many hours with teachers and friends once they start school. Because of this, she believes parents are not always the biggest influence in every situation. Njambi said it is important to recognise that children are exposed to different environments and experiences outside the home.
“I am not saying that parents hawalei watoto ama nini but mtoto ku end up kuchoma shule, ama ku end up kukua mwizi, you know, a bad person, I really don’t think blaming the parent is the right thing to do,” Njambi Fever said.
The blogger explained that people often rush to judge parents whenever a child is involved in wrongdoing. However, she believes such conclusions ignore other factors that may have contributed to the behaviour. She said every child responds differently to the world around them.
Different influences on children
Njambi pointed out that even children raised in the same household can develop very different personalities. According to her, this shows that parenting alone does not determine how a child will turn out. She said individual choices and outside influences also play a part.
She also highlighted the impact of peer pressure, saying it becomes more powerful as children grow older. Njambi explained that parents cannot control every situation their children face once they start interacting more with friends and classmates. She noted that this becomes even more challenging during certain stages of adolescence.
“Peer pressure has so much to do. You do not have control, especially mtoto akifika ile age ya …hehhh,” Njambi Fever said.
Njambi maintained that blaming parents every time a child makes a bad decision is unfair. She said the reality is often more complicated than people assume. According to her, society should acknowledge the many influences that affect young people as they grow up.
“Mimi, I do not support blaming parents,” Njambi Fever said.
