Mkamburi Chigogo explains why women should reveal their financial struggles to men early
By Paulette Mboga, June 26, 2026Radio host Mkamburi Chigogo has shared her views on how women should approach new relationships.
She said women should not wait before asking for a maintenance fee or talking about the challenges they are facing because it helps them know whether someone is committed to the relationship.
“Ukipatana na mtu yaani usichelewe kuitisha maintenance fee. Hapo hapo, anza kuhard launch shida zako kama wewe ni msichana. That is how you know this person is committed to the course,” Mkamburi Chigogo said on Friday, June 26, 2026.
She explained that some people are surprised when someone starts talking about personal problems soon after meeting them. According to Mkamburi, that should not be seen as unusual because it is one way of knowing whether the other person is willing to stand with them.
“Unaona vile watu huwa wanasea, sijui unameet na mtu, halafu siku ya kwanza ameanza kukuitishisha sijui gas imeisha, sijui kuna babu yangu mgonjwa, anaanza kukumwagia shida zake zote hapo, that is how it should be,” she said.
Her dating perspective
Mkamburi continued by sharing a story she said she heard from a Nigerian man. She used it to support her opinion that some women quickly become comfortable sharing their financial struggles after meeting someone they are interested in.
“In fact, there is another Nigerian man aliniambia ukipatana na msichana wa Kenya yaani sasa ni kama wazazi wake walikufa kitambo,” Mkamburi Chigogo said.
She went on to describe an example of how such conversations can begin. Mkamburi said it is common for someone to immediately mention that they need help with something like buying gas.
“After one minute unaambiwa, halo babe, gas yangu imeisha. Hivyo ndio vile inafaa,” she said.
Mkamburi explained that, in her view, women should openly share their challenges early in a relationship. She said doing so gives them a chance to see whether the other person is ready to support them from the beginning.
According to Mkamburi, bringing up personal struggles early should not be viewed as a bad thing. She believes it helps show whether a relationship has a strong foundation and whether the other person is committed.