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Charisma shares lessons from dating woman with endometriosis
29th September, 2026 10:17 AM
Kenyan singer and songwriter Charisma has opened up about his experience dating a woman who was living with endometriosis, revealing how the relationship changed his understanding of the condition and taught him empathy.
Charisma shared his experience in a video posted online on Tuesday, September 29, 2026, after speaking during Natalie Githinji’s Endometriosis Warriors event held at the Kenyatta International Convention Centre (KICC) on Sunday, September 27.
The singer said endometriosis affects many women but remains difficult for people who have never experienced the condition to understand.
“A lot of people don’t understand that endometriosis is a big problem for many women. I’ve been with a woman who was going through endometriosis, and it was the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life,” Charisma said.
Charisma recalls struggling to understand her pain
Charisma admitted that he initially did not know how to support his former partner after learning that she was living with endometriosis. He said he struggled to understand what she was experiencing and, at one point, even thought she was overreacting.
“When I dated someone who had endometriosis, at first it was hard knowing how to support her. I didn’t know what I should do or how to help. I remember at some point I thought she was overreacting,” he said.
The singer said navigating the situation was difficult because he did not have enough knowledge about the condition at the time. However, he eventually realised that not understanding something was not a reason to ignore it.
“It was difficult to navigate the situation then, but ignorance is not a defence. I had to learn about it, figure it out and be better about it. I think I became a better man from that perspective,” he added.
‘It taught me patience’
Looking back, Charisma said the relationship changed the way he viewed women living with health conditions that may not always be visible to other people.
He said the experience taught him patience and encouraged him to become more understanding towards people dealing with challenges he could not personally relate to.
“That relationship taught me patience because women go through a lot of things that I came to understand. It made me be kind to people who go through things that I don’t understand,” Charisma said.
He added that caring for someone through a difficult period also changed his understanding of what it means to support another person.
“It taught me to be a man and to take care of someone when they are going through something. It gave me a perspective into the life of what women go through and gave me so much empathy and respect for women,” he said.
Charisma joins Natalie Githinji on stage
The Endometriosis Warriors event brought together women living with endometriosis, their supporters, celebrities, musicians and dancers for a day of awareness, entertainment and community support.
Charisma and fellow musician Okello Max later joined Natalie on stage for a dance session, giving the crowd one of the lighter moments of the event.
The trio danced together as the audience cheered before the event returned to conversations around endometriosis and the experiences of women living with the condition.
For Natalie, the gathering came at a personal point in her journey after she recently underwent treatment and surgery following complications linked to endometriosis. She has continued to speak openly about her recovery while encouraging other women living with the condition to give themselves time and patience as they heal.
The large turnout at KICC also gave Natalie an opportunity to see the growing support around a cause that has become an important part of her advocacy.
