Being an orphan does not end at 30 — Lydia Wanjiru speaks on childhood trauma
By Paulette Mboga, May 22, 2026Content creator Lydia Wanjiru has spoken about the pain many orphans continue to carry even in adulthood.
On Friday, May 22, 2026, she explained that growing older does not erase painful memories from childhood. She said some people make jokes about orphans forgetting their struggles once they become adults. According to Lydia, the pain and experiences remain deeply rooted for many people.
“I hear jokes like ‘being an orphan ends at 30. After that, you’re an adult and forget what happened’,” Lydia Wanjiru said.
Lydia explained that some experiences are too painful to completely move on from. She noted that certain memories remain clear no matter how much time passes.
“No. There are things done to us that are too deeply ingrained in us to forget,” she explained.
The content creator also shared that some moments from childhood continue to affect people for years. She said there are painful memories that are difficult to erase from the mind.
“There are moments that we just can’t erase. There are memories so deep that you can’t fathom how we survived,” Lydia Wanjiru stated.
Healing from painful memories
Lydia also addressed the issue of forgiveness and healing. She explained that forgiving people does not always mean forgetting the pain they caused.
“You can forgive, but you can’t forget,” Lydia Wanjiru said.
She further stated that forgiveness is sometimes done for personal peace rather than for the people who caused the pain. According to her, some people never admit the wrong things they did.
“And even this forgiveness is for setting yourself free because these same people will never apologize leave alone acknowledge their faults,” she explained.
Lydia claimed that some people continue to avoid taking responsibility for their actions. She said they would rather live with guilt than admit they hurt others.
“They’d rather have sleepless nights and fight with the ghosts of our parents than admit they wronged us!” Lydia Wanjiru said.
Despite the painful memories, Lydia encouraged people to make peace with their past and focus on living better lives. She urged those carrying emotional wounds to continue moving forward.
“And it’s ok. Make peace with it, then live a life full of blessings and comeback after comeback!” she stated.