Shorn Arwa shares why motherhood has made her decide against having more children

Content creator and influencer Shorn Arwa has opened up about the realities of motherhood, revealing that the emotional, mental, and physical demands of raising a child have made her rule out having any more children.

Speaking to YouTubers hours after gracing Cashmeer Sayyid’s event on the night of Saturday, August 9, 2025, Arwa said the hardest part of being a mother is losing yourself and constantly having to remind yourself not to let the weight of parenting crush your spirit.

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“The hardest part of being a mother is losing yourself, looking at yourself every day and having to say that I will not allow motherhood to put me down. It’s not as easy as people think it is. You don’t get any day off,” she said.

She shared that even when she is away from home, her thoughts are constantly with her son.

“Like now, when I’m out here, I’m just thinking, has my kid eaten?” she noted.

Arwa explained that while she loves her son deeply, the emotional responsibility of raising another child is something she does not wish to take on.

Shorn Arwa also pointed out that the strain motherhood can place on a marriage is a significant concern for her, suggesting that an unexpected child could potentially lead to the breakdown of the relationship.

“That’s why I don’t want to do this again. I love him so much; that’s why I also don’t want to worry about another kid. In case it happens by mistake, the marriage stops. Motherhood, though, is amazing, but I am not doing it again,” she said.

She also revealed that, beyond occasionally sharing pictures of her son online, she is not soft-launching anything in particular regarding her son’s career.

“I just post him. Other than that, I don’t have anything planned about him; I just post him,” she added.

Confidence

On where she draws her confidence from, Arwa credited her upbringing, explaining that her mother was instrumental in building her boldness.

She recalled how her mother would nudge her into taking initiative, especially in public settings.

“If you are not confident, you will lose. The world is not for the timid who just want to sit and watch. For those of us who were not born in wealth, we have to be very aggressive; otherwise, we die without a name. I’ve always been confident, but I had a mother who would always push me to lift my hand in scenes like where a pastor would ask who would pray. She would force me, and I became very confident. Even in a congregation, when someone is asked to pray, she would look at me, and I would raise my hand,” Arwa said.