Pastor Sue Munene urges couples to use eye contact to catch cheating partners
Viral ‘TwaTwa’ preacher and relationship counsellor Pastor Susan Munene has advised couples who are facing doubts about infidelity to use direct eye contact as a way to uncover the truth about their partner’s faithfulness.
Speaking during an interview with a local TV station on Sunday, June 1, 2025, Munene explained that eye contact is not only a form of emotional communication but also a practical way to sense dishonesty or hidden guilt within a relationship.
She stated that looking into a person’s eyes can reveal far more than words ever could, and that couples should practise this regularly to strengthen their emotional connection and expose any underlying issues.
“I have taught eye-to-eye contact to many couples. When you look into each other’s eyes, you can immediately sense if something is wrong. You can tell if someone is grieving, angry, or disturbed. The Bible itself says the eyes are the window to the soul—if your eye is right, your whole body is right,” she said.
According to Pastor Munene, those who are unfaithful often avoid eye contact and will struggle to maintain a steady gaze when confronted.
She encouraged individuals to calmly ask their partners to look them in the eye and deny any wrongdoing, adding that the inability to hold eye contact may be a sign of guilt.
“Even if someone is cheating, they will not manage to look you straight in the eyes. Ask them to do so and say, ‘I am not cheating’. If they hesitate or look away, something is not right.”
She gave an example from her own marriage, stating that she and her husband, Pastor Munene, have a habit of sitting together every evening at a small table in their home, where they silently look into each other’s eyes.
She said this routine, though simple, is a powerful practice that reinforces their bond and keeps their emotional connection intact.
“My husband and I still do it. We sit down and just look at each other without speaking. Even without talking, you are communicating deeply. That is how you stay emotionally connected.”
In addition to eye contact, Pastor Munene also advised couples to maintain physical closeness, saying that touch, both casual and intentional, is essential in keeping love alive and preventing emotional distance.
“Learn to touch one another. When you are with your husband, keep touching him—even when it is unnecessary. That physical contact matters.”
Marital toxicity
Earlier on Saturday, April 5, 2025, Pastor Sue warned couples who come together while already having children to steer clear of deceiving each other that their kids are born again when, in reality, they are battling hidden drug-related addictions.
Sue told parents that this is often the breeding ground of marital toxicity, as the other partner will eventually turn hostile once they discover the children had been sugar-coated to seem like angels.
“After that, let’s talk about our children. The second-born is deep into drugs, and the third is entangled in wild living. Then we ask, how do we support each other? So he doesn’t walk in on the kids drinking and start asking why, yet you had sworn they were born again. And him, the same.”
Sue, who shot to fame for her viral ‘twa twa’ catchphrase, insisted that couples who have previously gone through divorce and are seeking fulfilment in new marriages must embrace full disclosure—including openly discussing the reasons behind their past breakups.
According to her, no one dreams of divorce or losing a spouse, but coming to terms with such painful realities plays a key role in whether one will find peace and fulfilment in a future relationship.
“Number one is to accept that something happened. No one walks down the aisle hoping for divorce. No one marries expecting their spouse to die. That was beyond your expectations. When it happens, don’t live in denial. Surround yourself with people who can speak life into you.”
To support this, she even advised couples to seek out professional help, like therapy, to make peace with past heartbreaks before walking into new unions, adding that unhealed wounds are another breeding ground for toxic relationships.
“Sit down afterwards and acknowledge that we both have a past. Look for a therapist. Don’t try to counsel each other. Therapy doesn’t mean you’re crazy. Let someone guide you through the steps, then put those lessons into practice. You must walk in unity. Admit your past.”
