Embracing singlehood: How to start solomaxxing without feeling lonely

Being single is no longer seen by many as something to “fix.” Instead, a growing number of people are embracing a lifestyle centred on self-growth, independence and finding happiness in their own company.

This shift has fuelled the rise of solomaxxing, a new social media trend that has been encouraging people to make the most of singlehood by investing in themselves rather than waiting for a relationship to feel fulfilled.

While the idea of spending more time alone may sound daunting, experts say there is an important distinction between solitude and loneliness.

Solitude

Solitude is a choice that can promote self-reflection, creativity and personal growth, while loneliness is the distress that comes from feeling socially disconnected. Learning to enjoy your own company without cutting yourself off from others is the foundation of healthy solomaxxing.

Being single and being happy is a journey; you may find yourself sad today without a partner, but there is a different kind of peace in solitude & freedom.

To truly be happy when single, you have to make yourself solid and independent. You need to learn to be content alone because it is your responsibility, and nobody’s going to do that but you. 

Start with small solo activities

If you are not used to being alone, there’s no need to overhaul your lifestyle overnight.

Start with simple activities like enjoying a cup of coffee at your favourite café, taking a walk, visiting a museum, reading in a park or watching a film on your own.

These experiences can help you build confidence and discover that being alone doesn’t have to feel uncomfortable.

Invest in yourself

Singlehood can provide an opportunity to focus on goals that are often put on hold.

You might enrol in a short course, improve your fitness, learn a new language, start a business, or pick up a creative hobby such as painting, photography or cooking.

Personal growth not only boosts confidence but also helps create a fulfilling life that is not dependent on a romantic relationship.

Build a routine you enjoy

A healthy daily routine can make solo living feel purposeful.

Set aside time for work or school, exercise, nutritious meals, relaxation and hobbies.

Having structure helps reduce idle time that can sometimes lead to overthinking or feelings of isolation.

Stay connected with others

Solomaxxing doesn’t mean cutting ties with friends and family. In fact, maintaining strong social connections is essential for emotional well-being.

Schedule regular catch-ups with loved ones, join community groups or participate in activities that allow you to meet new people who share your interests.

Healthy independence is about enjoying your own company while also nurturing meaningful relationships.

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