Muthoni Mukiri reveals signs a man is just not that into you
By William Muthama, March 2, 2026Counsellor and mindset coach Muthoni Mukiri has explained what women should look out for when dating a man who isn’t genuinely interested.
In an Instagram post on Monday, March 2, 2026, Mukiri highlighted communication patterns and small daily behaviours that reveal a man’s true level of commitment.
“If the guy you’re dating can go for days without texting or calling, like it’s the third or fourth day in a week, there are usually three reasons,” Mukiri said. “Number one, he could be serving in the military. Number two, he could be admitted in hospital. Number three, that man simply does not like you.”
She emphasised that relationships cannot thrive without consistent communication. “There is no relationship where I like you, but I don’t want to talk to you. I like you, but I’m ghosting you. Make it make sense,” she said.
Watch the small signs
Mukiri told women to notice small gestures, such as missed calls, delayed messages, and a lack of effort to connect.
She said that consistent silence and lack of effort are often the clearest indicators a man isn’t truly interested. “A man who is genuinely interested will make an effort to communicate. If he doesn’t, it’s a clear warning,” she said.
She also cautioned against making excuses for absent partners. “You can’t build trust or intimacy if one person consistently checks out. Don’t ignore the red flags,” Mukiri added.
Communication is key
For Mukiri, honesty and consistency are the foundation of any healthy relationship. “Communication is not optional. It’s the baseline. If he’s not showing up in small ways, he probably won’t show up when it matters most,” she said.
She further reminded women to value their time and emotions, emphasising that noticing when someone is not putting in the effort can prevent unnecessary heartache. Mukiri highlighted that a woman’s love and energy are valuable, and recognising disinterest early is key to protecting both.
“Notice when someone is not putting in the effort. Your love and energy are valuable, and recognising disinterest early can save a lot of heartache,” Mukiri said.