Something is wrong with you: Bishop Funke’s message to Kenyans over 30 begging for rent
By Valerian Khakayi, August 28, 2026Nigerian Lady Bishop Funke Felix-Adejum has delivered a blunt message to people above the age of 30 who still depend on others to meet their basic needs, particularly house rent.
Speaking during a Rhema Revivers session on Thursday, August 27, 2026, in Kenya ahead of the Rhema Feast, the bishop urged people to work towards financial independence before considering marriage.
“If you are above 30 and still begging for house rent, something is wrong with you,” she said.
Felix-Adejum also addressed people who are still living in their mother’s house at 30 while depending on their parents for transport and food.
“If at 30 you are still living in your mother’s house and she is still responsible for your transport and feeding, do not even consider marriage,” she said.
She explained that her remarks were not about materialism but about being realistic about the responsibilities that come with marriage.
“Marriage is not for the lazy am not materiallist am realistic,” she said.
Felix-Adejum further pointed out that marriage comes with financial responsibilities, including providing for a spouse and children.
“When you get married, you have two mouths to feed, and if you are fruitful, maybe three or four, and the day you got married, your children gave you advance notice: ‘In nine months I will be coming,'” she added.
Society’s pressure on people over 30
Turning 30 is often seen as an important milestone, with society placing growing expectations on adults to become financially independent and establish themselves in life.
People in their 30s may face pressure to have a stable source of income, pay their own rent, move out of their parents’ homes, and take full responsibility for their daily expenses. There can also be expectations to get married, start a family and build a successful career or business.
For those who have not achieved these milestones, the pressure can sometimes come from family, friends, and the wider community, with questions about marriage, housing, employment, and financial stability becoming more frequent.
However, reaching 30 does not necessarily mean that everyone will have achieved the same level of financial security. Rising living costs, unemployment, low wages, career setbacks, and other challenges can make it difficult for some adults to achieve independence.
The expectations can nevertheless create anxiety and make some people feel as though they are falling behind their peers.
It is against this backdrop that Bishop Funke Felix-Adejum’s remarks about financial independence and marriage have sparked conversations about what society expects from people once they reach their 30s.