Muthoni Mukiri shares deep message on self-love and personal growth
Counsellor and mindset coach Muthoni Mukiri has shared a deep message about self-love, healing, and personal growth, opening up about the emotional struggle of losing oneself after difficult life experiences.
On Tuesday, June 9, 2026, she explained that people often go through painful moments that change how they see themselves and how they relate to others.
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She noted that during such times, it becomes hard for someone to feel like their old self again. She said many people often wish to return to who they were before the pain or life challenges began.
“You know, sometimes when you go through things, you go through something where you lose yourself, where it hurts you so much, where you’re struggling to find your footing again,” Muthoni Wamukiri said.
She added that people often reflect on their past selves and believe they were more confident or stable before going through certain experiences. According to her, this feeling is common among those trying to heal from emotional struggles.
“People will say things like you know, before I went through this thing, I was so confident, Muthoni, I was doing so well, I just want to go back to that girl,” Muthoni said.
Message on healing and growth
Muthoni explained that healing should not be about returning to the person someone was before the pain. Instead, she said it should focus on growth and becoming stronger after going through challenges.
She emphasised that healing is not about going back to a version of yourself that may have lacked boundaries or self-awareness. She said real growth comes from learning through experiences and becoming better.
“The goal of healing and working on yourself is not to go back to being that girl who allowed herself to get lost in the relationship or in whatever it is,” Muthoni Wamukiri said.
She further explained that healing should not focus on returning to a version of self that tolerated unhealthy situations or lacked boundaries. Instead, she encouraged focusing on transformation.
“The goal of healing is not to go back to being that girl who did not have boundaries or who was a people pleaser or who was all those things,” Muthoni said.
Muthoni concluded by noting that the true purpose of healing is growth. She said the aim is to become a better and stronger version of oneself after going through life experiences and challenges.
