Esma Platnumz shares thoughts on starting new relationships immediately after breakups
By Paulette Mboga, July 21, 2026Businesswoman and content creator Esma Platnumz has shared her thoughts on breakups and why she believes people should think carefully before getting into a new relationship too quickly.
In a statement on Tuesday, July 20, 2026, Esma said many people rush into another relationship without taking time to heal. According to her, this can lead to regret later.
She explained that she is not used to giving advice but felt this was an important topic to discuss. Esma said the issue affects both women and men. The businesswoman encouraged people to reflect on how they move on after the end of a relationship.
“Sipo vizuri katika kushauri lakini kuna muda inastahili tuliongelee hili swala,” Esma Platnumz said on Monday, July 20, 2026.
Esma also raised several questions about relationships and healing. She asked whether it is right to begin a new relationship immediately after a breakup. She also questioned why many people later regret making that decision.
“Je, ni sahihi kuanza mahusiano mapya mara tu baada ya kuachana? Kwa nini watu wengi hujuta baada ya kuingia kwenye mahusiano mapya haraka?” Esma Platnumz said.
Taking time to heal
Esma explained that people often say someone who quickly enters another relationship after a breakup may be trying to avoid emotional pain. She said this is not something that only happens to women. According to her, men also behave in the same way after the end of relationships.
“Unadhani kupona kwanza ni muhimu kabla ya kuanza mahusiano mengine? Je, umewahi kuingia kwenye mahusiano mapya haraka na baadaye ukajuta?” Esma Platnumz said.
She went on to explain that moving into another relationship immediately after ending one could be a sign of fear. Esma said some people are afraid of facing the pain that comes with a breakup. Instead of taking time to recover, they look for another partner almost immediately.
“Wanasema unapokuwa na mpenzi, ambaye umewachana naye, halafu ukaja, ghafla ukajipata katika mahusiano, na hii sio wasichana tu. Hata wanaume wana hii tabia. Hiyo inaitwa uwoga wa maumivu,” Esma Platnumz said.
She added that this fear can cause people to repeat the same relationship patterns. According to Esma, someone may end one relationship and find another partner within a very short time instead of giving themselves time to heal. She believes learning to deal with emotional pain is an important step before starting a new relationship.
“Na ndio maana wanaangukia same buyer. Unapata mtu ameachana na huyu, haijafika hata siku mbili, ametafuta mwanaume mwengine. Huyo anaonekana ni mwoga wa kutovmilia maumivu,” Esma Platnumz said.