King Kalala speaks on pressure to date older men, says she will never go that route
By Steve Ireri, July 10, 2025Kenyan media personality Prudence Chepkirui, alias King Kalala, has spoken out strongly against the normalisation of the sugar daddy lifestyle, making it clear that not even life’s darkest seasons could ever convince her to take that path.
Speaking during an interview with a local TV station on the night of Wednesday, July 9, 2025, about her journey after leaving her radio job, Kalala did not shy away from describing just how difficult things became.
She revealed that the transition from public life to personal uncertainty was overwhelming, at times even humiliating.
With bills piling up and her independence at risk, Kalala said she had to swallow her pride and turn to her parents for help, who eventually stepped in and paid a rent bill of Ksh100,000 that had accumulated.
Yet despite facing such financial strain, she maintained that she never considered turning to older, wealthier men for assistance, a route many young women find themselves pressured into under the weight of economic survival.
“On sugar daddies. That one, I will not tolerate. I will never. I believe that as girls, we go through so much in life. When we are young, society wants us to be independent and strong. But when we grow older, they say, Now that girl has a PhD, she cannot obey; she cannot listen to anything.”
According to Kalala, the societal burden placed on young women today is immense.
She noted that many women, even those raised to be strong and independent, often find themselves ridiculed for becoming exactly what they were meant to be.
What begins as praise for ambition, she lamented, quickly turns into criticism the moment a woman starts to speak her mind or assert her power.
“People want the girl child to be strong, but only to a certain point. The moment she becomes too bold, too educated, or too successful, the same society that applauded her now labels her difficult, disobedient, or unloveable,” she explained.
Masculinity
Kalala shared that she has personally faced this tension, especially in relationships where her confidence and outspokenness become threats rather than virtues.
She painted a vivid picture of being dismissed as too masculine simply for expressing her thoughts, with some men suggesting that being in conflict with her feels like fighting with a fellow man.
“Imagine being told that the energy you bring into a disagreement makes it look like two men are arguing. That is how uncomfortable men are with women who know what they want,” she said.
The outspoken creative did not hold back in challenging the hypocrisy of a culture that demands humility from women, yet turns around and mocks them when they display strength.
In her view, the idea that a woman should dim her light or submit to a man simply to survive is unacceptable and damaging.
“I reached a point where I had to show up for myself. I was broke, yes, but I still said I am not going back to the village. I just needed five minutes to figure things out. And I did,” she added.