Dr Ofweneke to women: Over-controlling men can spark the very cheating you fear
By Steve Ireri, August 17, 2025Media personality and relationship expert Dr Ofweneke has cautioned women on the dangers of being overly controlling in their romantic relationships, arguing that excessive policing can inadvertently push men toward the very cheating behaviour they seek to prevent.
Speaking during a segment on a local TV station on Saturday, August 16, 2025, Ofweneke said that men naturally possess a rebellious streak, and constant scrutiny or repeated warnings not to cheat can provoke them to act against expectations.
“A man, once a lady becomes too tough on him, will naturally carry a rebellious nature, no matter how saved he is or how deep in the spirit. If you keep telling a man ‘don’t cheat, don’t cheat,’ that is often when he cheats. Let him have his space,” he said.
He explained that demonstrating trust and affection is more effective than suspicion and control.
Ofweneke advised that even small gestures, such as texting a partner in the middle of the night with messages like ‘I miss you, babe’ or ‘Can’t wait to see you back home,’ can strengthen bonds.
He noted that such encouragement motivates men to return home, no matter their circumstances, and fosters loyalty.
“I tell women, if you text your man in the middle of the night saying ‘I miss you, babe, can’t wait to see you back home,’ that man will leave no matter the amount of beer he has taken and will even tell his friends he needs to be back home,” he added.
Conversely, he warned that unfounded accusations or insinuations about infidelity can backfire.
Men, he explained, may interpret such messages as permission to explore, knowing they will face criticism upon returning home.
“But if you accuse him of being with other women without proof, that is when he may actually start cheating, because he thinks he can have fun knowing you will lash out when he returns,” he added.
Biblical perspective
Ofweneke also drew parallels between the treatment of men and religious reverence.
He stated that the Bible emphasises making women in God’s image, but in character, men reflect divine qualities.
“The character of a man is the character of God. So the way you, as a woman, revere and treat God is the way you should treat a man,” he said.
He encouraged women to heap praise on their partners, comparing it to worship.
“Like when you praise God, His blessings come down; so is what happens to a man. Heap praises on him, say you love him.”