Kitt Kiarie dismisses women-jealousy narrative as lazy and boring
Content creator Kitt Kiarie has rejected claims that women criticise each other out of jealousy, calling the idea lazy and boring.
In an Instagram post on Friday, February 20, 2026, she said this way of thinking comes up when people are unhappy with the actions of one woman or a few women and then turn that into a story about all women. She said this thinking harms women and ignores real issues in different spaces and professions.
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“I think it’s important to note. But this type of ‘PSA’ is so…” she said, pointing to how quickly people jump to easy labels.
She explained that when “one woman (or two or even 10) does something you don’t like,” people quickly say the women are jealous.
Kitt Kiarie said this is not true and should stop.
“NOT ALL WOMEN ARE JEALOUS OF EACH OTHER!” she said, adding that this thinking is used to shut down real conversations.
She said these labels are used to avoid looking at what actually happened in a situation.
She also spoke about how people use the term “pick me” in online talk. “If you wonder sometimes, what does ‘pick me’ look like? It’s this,” she said, adding that more context was shared in the comments section of a video that she was referring to.
She said the label is often used when someone attacks other women as a group instead of speaking about one experience.
Why the label harms women
Kitt Kiarie said the problem starts when a woman puts down all other women in a certain space or profession because of one experience. She said this turns one story into a general attack on women in that field.
“When a woman puts down ALL other women in a certain space/profession because of an experience,” she said, it creates unfair judgment and pushes harmful ideas.
She added that people do not act the same way when talking about men.
“Meanwhile, women will forgive men anything!!!” she said.
She pointed out that people do not write off “all male doctors” or “male service workers” when one man does something wrong. She said this double standard keeps women under pressure and limits fair discussion.
She ended her comments with “What a boring narrative,” to show how labels can be unfair when applied to whole groups.
