Pastor Sue Munene warns ladies trapping men with babies ruins the child’s life
By Steve Ireri, August 10, 2025Preacher and relationship counsellor Susan Munene has issued a stern warning to women who trap men by having children to secure financial support or emotional ties, cautioning that such actions ultimately harm the child the most.
Speaking during an interview with a local TV station on the night of Saturday, August 9, 2025, Pastor Munene criticised the practice of deliberately having a child with a man who is not psychologically or emotionally prepared to take on fatherhood.
She explained that many men can sense when they are being manipulated and often do not respond calmly once they realise they have been trapped.
“The whole trapping thing, I hate it. Why would you trap a man by having a child when this man was not even prepared to have a baby? Maybe he did not want to marry you, and it was just attraction. For me, I see it as a challenge with the mind or the emotional womb. You find girls with very low self-esteem, especially those who were not affirmed before age twelve, often struggling with validation. Wanting to trap a man by giving him a child is a sign of seeking validation, feeling incomplete without something that ties you to him,” she said.
She added that men instinctively know whether they are in love or being manipulated.
The woman of God emphasised that children in these cases rarely receive the fatherly affection they need, and the resulting psychological impact can be profound, since children can easily pick up on the ongoing strife between their parents.
She stressed that, in the end, the child suffers the most.
“Men know when they are being manipulated. He may not tell you, but he may just leave you. The child will not receive fatherly love, and psychologically, this affects the child deeply because they can sense the tension and conflict between their parents. Ultimately, it is the child who suffers most in such scenarios,” she added.
Pastor Munene urged women to reconsider such actions, emphasising the long-term consequences for both the child and themselves.
She directly appealed to ladies, cautioning them that trapping a man with a child usually results in abandonment, leaving women to bear the full responsibility of parenting. She noted that many men are not committed partners but rather seed distributors who spread their seed and move on.
“We are telling our girls and women out there: never trap a man with a child. You will be left with the child, and you will have to raise them alone. That is why we have seen many women having children while the man does not love them or is not committed. Men are seed distributors; they spread their seed but may not stick around.”