Mother’s Day: Why single fathers should also be celebrated
By Valerian Khakayi, May 10, 2026Mother’s Day is traditionally set aside to honour mothers for their love, sacrifice and role in raising families.
But in many Kenyan homes today, the reality of parenting has changed. Some fathers are now raising children alone, taking on both emotional and financial responsibilities that are usually shared between two parents.
This has sparked a growing conversation: should single fathers also be recognised on Mother’s Day?
For many, the answer is yes, not to replace mothers, but to acknowledge the reality of caregiving in modern families.
Parenting without a shared partner
Across Kenya, single fathers are raising children due to divorce, separation, the death of a spouse or abandonment. In some cases, fathers are left with full custody and must immediately adjust to a role that requires both discipline and nurturing.
They attend school meetings, cook meals, help with homework, take children to the hospital and still work long hours to provide for the family.
It is a role that demands emotional strength, patience and sacrifice, the same qualities often associated with motherhood.
Breaking stereotypes around fatherhood
Traditionally, society has viewed fathers mainly as providers. But that perception is slowly changing.
Today, more single fathers are stepping into caregiving roles that involve emotional support, daily parenting and close bonding with their children.
Many say they often do not receive recognition because society assumes caregiving is naturally a mother’s role.
Yet in reality, some fathers are quietly playing both roles without much support or attention.
Emotional and financial pressure
Unlike co-parenting households, single fathers often carry the full burden alone. They must balance work and parenting without a partner to share responsibilities.
This can lead to emotional strain, exhaustion and financial pressure, especially when raising young children who need constant care and attention.
Despite this, many continue showing up every day, ensuring their children feel loved, safe and supported.
Should they be celebrated on Mother’s Day?
Some argue that Mother’s Day should remain strictly for mothers. Others believe it should be more inclusive, especially in cases where fathers are performing both parental roles.
Celebrating single fathers on Mother’s Day does not take away from mothers. Instead, it recognises the changing structure of families and the shared nature of parenting responsibilities.
A more balanced approach could be acknowledging single fathers for their caregiving role while still honouring mothers for their unique contribution.
As family structures continue to evolve in Kenya, the definition of parenting is also changing. What remains constant is the need for children to be raised with love, care and stability — regardless of who provides it.
Whether mother or father, single parents often carry double responsibility with limited support.
Perhaps the bigger question is not whether single fathers should be celebrated on Mother’s Day, but how society can better recognise all parents who step up to raise children alone.
Because at the heart of it, parenting is not about titles; it is about sacrifice, love and commitment.