Why many Gen Zs are delaying marriage in their 20s
By Valerian Khakayi, July 2, 2026Not long ago, getting married in your early 20s was considered a major milestone in Kenya. Today, however, many Gen Zs are taking a different approach.
While marriage is still a dream for many, young adults between 18 and 25 are choosing to focus on personal growth before settling down.
Conversations both online and offline show that many believe there is no need to rush into marriage if they are not ready.
Here are some of the reasons why many Gen Zs are delaying marriage.
1. Financial stability comes first
The rising cost of living has made many young people cautious about marriage. With rent, food, and transport becoming more expensive, many want stable jobs, businesses, or savings before taking on family responsibilities.
2. They are focused on their careers
Many Gen Zs are still in college, building careers or learning digital skills.
They believe achieving personal and professional goals first gives them a better chance of building a stable marriage later.
3. They want to know themselves
Your early 20s are often a time of self-discovery. Many young people feel they need to understand who they are, what they want in life, and the kind of partner they need before making a lifelong commitment.
4. They have learned from failed relationships
Some grew up witnessing unhappy marriages, while others have experienced heartbreak themselves.
These experiences have made many more careful about choosing a life partner instead of marrying because of age or pressure.
5. Mental health matters
Unlike previous generations, Gen Z openly discusses therapy, healing, and emotional well-being.
Many believe working on themselves first helps them build healthier relationships in the future.
6. Social media has changed dating
Dating apps and social media have made it easier to meet people, but they have also introduced challenges such as ghosting, situationships, and unrealistic expectations.
As a result, many young people take more time before committing to marriage.
7. They don’t believe in rushing
Many Gen Zs believe it is better to marry the right person at the right time than to rush because of family or societal expectations. Compatibility, respect, and shared values matter more than age.
Marriage remains an important goal for many young Kenyans, but it is no longer seen as something that must happen before a certain age.
For Gen Z, waiting until they feel emotionally, financially, and mentally ready is becoming the new normal.