Pastor T warns men against making their wives financially dependent on them
By Valerian Khakayi, July 6, 2026The founder of Truth Mentorship Society and senior pastor at Life Church International Limuru, Anthony Kahura Mwangi, widely known as Pastor T, urged men who want their wives to become full-time homemakers to ensure they have financial security, arguing that complete dependence on a husband can leave women vulnerable to control and abuse.
Speaking during an interview with media personality Chris the Bass, the preacher said that if a couple agrees the wife should stay at home, the husband should provide her with an independent source of income, such as rental property whose proceeds are deposited directly into her account.
“If you decide your wife has to be a housewife, there must be security for her. Mujenge nyumba imupee rent ikuwe inaingia kwa account yake; that security is very important,” Pastor T said.
According to Pastor T, relying entirely on a husband’s financial support can create an unhealthy power imbalance, with some men viewing their wives as possessions rather than equal partners.
“Otherwise, you can just make her a housewife, and you are the one giving her the money and micromanaging her,” he added.
“That man will begin to range you as one of his assets: niko na bibi, niko na ubwa, niko na nyumba, niko na gari, and there are men who behave like that.”
The preacher further argued that financial dependence can make it difficult for women in abusive marriages to leave because they lack the resources to support themselves.
“And these zinafunguanga milango za ‘Why is this woman being beaten, and why can she not go anywhere?’ It is because someone has crippled her so much and created a form of dependency to a point that the question is, if you leave, where will you go?'” he pointed out.
Wives depending financially on their husbands
While many marriages successfully operate with one partner as the primary breadwinner, complete financial dependence can present challenges. When one spouse has little or no independent income, they may have limited control over financial decisions and rely entirely on their partner to meet everyday needs.
Financial dependence can also make it difficult for someone to leave an unhealthy or abusive relationship. Concerns about housing, children’s needs and the lack of personal income may discourage them from seeking help or starting over, even when they feel unsafe or unhappy.
For this reason, many relationship experts encourage couples to plan for financial security together.
This may include joint ownership of assets, access to family finances, personal savings or income-generating investments, helping ensure both partners have financial stability while maintaining a healthy and balanced marriage.