Why toddlers resist bedtime and what you can do
By Cynthia Lodite, July 7, 2026Many toddlers resist going to bed, even when they are clearly tired. As they grow, toddlers become more curious, independent, and aware of the world around them, making it harder for them to settle down at the end of the day.
According to the Early Learning Society of Kamloops, a centre for Early Child care, many two-year-olds struggle with falling asleep not because they are trying to be difficult, but because their developing brains and emotions are still learning how to manage rest and regulation.
“If your toddler resists bedtime, gets a “second wind” after 7pm, or insists they’re not tired, you’re not alone. Many two-year-olds struggle with falling asleep – not because they’re trying to be difficult, but because their developing brains and emotions are still learning how to manage rest and regulation,” ELSK states.
1.They do not want the fun to end
Toddlers are naturally curious and may see bedtime as missing out on exciting activities.
What you can do: Let your child know ahead of time that bedtime is approaching. Give gentle reminders like, “Ten more minutes of play, then it’s time to get ready for bed.”
2. They are overtired
An overtired toddler may become more energetic, irritable, or emotional, making it harder to fall asleep.
What you can do: Watch for signs of tiredness, such as rubbing their eyes, yawning, or becoming fussy. Try to start the bedtime routine before they become overtired.
3. They want more independence
As toddlers grow, they often want to make their own choices.
What you can do: Offer simple choices that keep the bedtime routine on track, such as choosing between two pairs of pajamas or selecting which bedtime story to read.
4. They thrive on routine
An inconsistent bedtime can make it harder for toddlers to understand when it’s time to sleep.
What you can do: Aim for the same bedtime each night and follow a predictable routine, such as taking a bath, brushing teeth, reading a story, and cuddling before lights out.
5. They feel Anxious or need reassurance
Some toddlers become anxious when separated from their parents at bedtime.
What you can do: Spend a few quiet minutes together before saying goodnight. A favorite blanket or soft toy can also provide comfort and help your child feel secure.