Robert Burale explains why saying ‘yes’ to everything can cost you respect
By Steve Ireri, July 2, 2026Motivational speaker, life coach and corporate trainer Robert Burale has urged people to become more intentional about the spaces they occupy, warning that constantly making themselves available everywhere can diminish their value.
In a reflective message shared on Facebook on Thursday, July 2, 2026, Burale advised his followers to embrace discernment, arguing that not every invitation or gathering deserves their presence.
“Don’t be everywhere. It’s not grace… You are cheapening yourself,” Burale wrote.
The renowned speaker further cautioned people against remaining in environments where they are disrespected or where dishonour is openly displayed, saying such spaces rarely produce honour in return.
“Don’t sit where dishonour is being manifested. You will never be honoured in life,” he stated.
Burale also used the opportunity to remind his followers about the importance of gratitude and loyalty, encouraging them to always remember those who stood by them during life’s most difficult seasons.
He said people should never forget individuals who extended a helping hand when they were struggling, noting that such acts of kindness should never be taken for granted.
“Never forget those that gave you light when you went through darkness,” he wrote.
At the same time, Burale encouraged people to also remember those who withdrew their support during challenging moments, suggesting that difficult seasons often reveal who genuinely cares and who does not.
“Never forget those that took away their light when you went through darkness,” he added.
Genuine love
Separately, the motivational speaker argued that in many modern relationships, what is described as love is sometimes based on physical attraction or temporary feelings rather than true commitment.
In his view, this kind of love can easily fade when circumstances change.
“Love can be fake; if you love somebody based on their six-pack or their curly hair, the hair will fall off at some point. Purpose for me comes before love; we have had friends never talking to each other because love was superficial,” Burale said.
“Be joined as friends through purpose and not through emotions.”
He added that when relationships are built only on such foundations, they are more likely to collapse when change inevitably happens.
The life coach further explains love using different concepts, including eros and agape.
Eros, in his interpretation, represents physical attraction and emotional desire, which he describes as often shallow and temporary.
“What is love? Eros, agape: Eros is very fleshly; you love fair-skinned women, but tomorrow you will meet one who is lighter. What happens? A woman loves a man with a six-pack. Tomorrow, she sees another who has a six-pack that looks like a seven-pack. What will you do?” he added.
“Then your so-called love will be put to the test.”