Njambi Fever shares tip on how to test men’s childcare abilities
By Paulette Mboga, September 8, 2025Digital content creator Njambi Fever has sparked an online conversation by encouraging women to explore their partners’ childcare attitudes during simple moments of cuddling.
Taking to her social media pages on Instagram on Monday, September 8, 2025, Njambi suggested that women should casually ask their boyfriends whether they would be willing to carry a baby in a carrier during an outing. According to her, the response to such a question can reveal a lot about a man’s views on fatherhood and shared parenting.
“Saa zingine when cuddling ask your boyfriend ‘baby unaweza beba mtoto tukienda out’ uskie,” she wrote. “Juu weh! Ati a woman’s job.”
Her remarks come in the wake of a heated debate on X where users clashed over whether men should carry their children in baby carriers while in public. Some men dismissed the idea, insisting that childcare, especially baby-carrying, is strictly a woman’s role. But others defended the practice, saying they would gladly do it and be proud to carry their kids openly.
Challenging traditional gender roles
Njambi’s take on the subject highlights an ongoing conversation about gender roles in modern parenting. Traditionally, childcare responsibilities in many African households have been viewed as the mother’s domain, with fathers expected to provide but not necessarily participate in day-to-day caregiving.
However, as more young couples embrace progressive views, expectations of fathers are changing. Carrying babies, preparing meals, or even staying home to care for children are increasingly being recognised as responsibilities that men can and should share.
For Njambi, the cuddling “test” is not just playful banter but a way for women to gauge how seriously their partners take shared parenting. By asking a seemingly simple question in an intimate setting, women can pick up on subtle attitudes that may later define how involved a man will be as a father.
Her comments have since sparked mixed reactions online. Supporters applauded her for raising an important issue in a relatable way.
Childcare is no longer being viewed as exclusively a woman’s duty. For many, Njambi Fever’s remarks serve as a reminder that modern relationships call for teamwork, not just in love but also in parenting.