Mkamburi Chigogo: Men must provide in relationships, it’s not optional
By Paulette Mboga, October 1, 2025Mkamburi Chigogo has said that men must provide in relationships and that provision is not optional.
In her radio show on Wednesday, October 1, 2025, she said men in today’s generation have started competing with women instead of taking up their role of being providers.
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According to her, it is wrong for men to argue that they have been providing in the past as if it is a favour. She insisted that men are naturally expected to provide in the same way that women are naturally expected to give birth.
She explained that just as a man cannot expect a woman to avoid childbirth, a woman cannot be expected to carry the burden of provision.
Mkamburi expressed frustration with men who want women to take on responsibilities that are not theirs. She said she does not understand how a woman can be the one to provide while the man benefits without effort.
“How am I the HR and you eating my food? I am the one providing for you?” she asked, stressing that such situations are unacceptable.
“Stop competing with women”
She further criticised men who act as if they compete with women, saying such attitudes are misguided. “The thing that really bamboozles me about men in this generation ni eti mnataka kushindana na wanawake,” she said, making it clear that men should stand firm and take responsibility instead of competing.
Mkamburi added that if a man refuses to provide, then he is failing in one of his most important duties. She said men who do not stand on business should not trouble women. “Wewe kama mwanaume, if you are not providing, you are not standing on business, msisumbue mtoto wa mtu,” she warned.
Her message was direct, pointing out that women should not be left carrying roles that do not belong to them. She maintained that provision is not a choice or an option for men, but a responsibility that comes with being a man.
Mkamburi’s remarks have added to ongoing conversations about gender roles, with her position being that the balance in relationships can only be achieved when men play their rightful role as providers and stop competing with women.