Dr Ofweneke: Women who ask for Uber money are seen as thieves
By Paulette Mboga, September 18, 2025Media personality Dr Ofweneke has sparked debate after saying that men often view women who ask for Uber money as thieves.
Speaking online on Thursday, September 18, 2025, he explained that a woman’s image instantly changes the moment she requests transport fare, shifting from being seen as attractive to being perceived negatively.
According to Dr Ofweneke, the phrase “nitumie pesa za Uber ndio nitoke” (send me Uber money so I can come) alters how men view women. He said such a request makes men start thinking of the woman as corrupt or untrustworthy.
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“Ladies, let me tell you something. The moment you tell a man ‘nitumie pesa za Uber ndio nitoke’, you instantly change from a beautiful lady to a thief in our minds. Heri hiyo pesa tunafikiria, afadhali tununue shamba, kuliko nitume na siko sure,” he said.
Dr Ofweneke stressed that men associate such requests with being taken advantage of, noting that instead of sending money, many men would rather use it for investments or other secure commitments. His remarks drew attention to a common phrase in Kenyan dating culture, widely referred to as “tuma fare.”
The ‘tuma fare’ culture
The phrase “tuma fare” has become a regular part of modern relationships in Kenya. It refers to situations where a woman asks a man to send her transport money before agreeing to visit.
While for some it is seen as a practical request, others argue that it creates mistrust and makes men suspicious of women’s intentions.
Dr Ofweneke’s comments reflect the frustration some men feel when asked for money without certainty that the woman will honour the arrangement. He compared the request to an unfair transaction, suggesting it paints women as opportunistic rather than genuine in their intentions.
The radio host added that such practices have complicated dating, with some men now avoiding situations where they have to send fare upfront.
Instead, they prefer to make plans where both parties contribute equally or meet halfway to reduce the perception of being exploited.
His remarks reignite the debate about gender roles, money, and expectations in Kenyan dating culture. Whether seen as practical or exploitative, “tuma fare” remains one of the most talked-about trends in relationships today.